Angels can change tyres too

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Statistics for the number of vehicles in Delhi are staggeringly, somewhere in the region of 8 million.  Now if you have ever been caught in a jam it sometimes seems as if at least half of those cars and motorbikes are somewhere between you and where you want to go.  Often, on my way to work I see people gently pushing parked cars one a little this way and the one in front a little that way until the double parked cars inside can be manoeuvred out.   This mass of vehicles, causing traffic jams and parking nightmares are a terrible nuisance but for some they can be life changing.

Researching for this blog I was privileged to meet Mr. Inderjit lal here in Delhi.  He was affected by measles as a child of about eight and was left paralysed with no sensation below the waist.

“There was no measles vaccine in those days and what happened to me was anyway very rare. I was bed-ridden for six months after which the sensation gradually began to return.   I had the support of a marvellous doctor and physiotherapist who never lost hope. Dr Bhanu Shankar later went on to be Director General of Health Services to The Government of India and it was he who told me when I was 18 that I should get a driving licence when everyone else was saying I was off my rocker to even try. I feel God has been very good to me, sending me such committed people.”

“As a young man I was able to climb two flights of stairs and as long as I could drive I could get to most places. I worked in tourism for 25 years and used to drive a normal car.   About 40 years ago I asked the Lord to help me and be with me on any venture and I have felt his presence, so I was as confident as the next person about getting around.”

“Years ago when our children were only about 1 and 3 years old we were piled in the car late one winter evening coming back from celebrating a birthday.  I was driving and just before the Kidwai Nagar and AAIMS junction (that was in the days before the flyovers) we got a flat tyre.  I could drive but I could not change a tyre and so there we were, Rita, me and two little ones in the cold and dark with no one around. Suddenly out of the gloom comes a young man whom we did not recognise but who declared that he knew us. It seems he was the son of a former servant and he was willing and able to change the tyre and send us on our way.  We know that was God’s good grace and was the reason why I had such confidence in spite of the limitations caused by the disability.”

“I made sure my children could drive and stopped driving myself a few years ago mostly because now there are so many more cars and it is almost impossible to park close to places that I need to visit and I cannot walk far.”

It doesn’t sound much really does it? But giving up driving has narrowed Inderjit’s world and increased his dependence on others.

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Of course in a city like Delhi it is perhaps madness to consider the luxury of reserved parking for people with disabilities.  I did see a “disability parking” sign outside a row of shops on Aurobindo Marg recently but somehow I can’t imagine it is reserved only for people with disabilities.  Lots of congregations across India meet not in special church buildings but in schools and public auditorium so my conversation with Inderjit got me thinking that it would be fairly easy to make a portable “disability parking” sign and have a young church member set it up each week to keep parking spaces close to the meeting place especially for people with disabilities. Of course for those mainline churches that have their own parking it is would be a simple matter to rule up special parking places close to the church entrance and the nearest ramp into the building.  Ah but ramps are for another blog post!

I would like to thank Inderjit Lal and his wife Rita for sharing so freely with me their journey as Christians living with disability. I remain deeply impressed and am sure you will be hearing more about them in future blogs

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The Disability Inclusion Toolkit is Out!

 

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The first copies of the Disability Inclusion TOOLKIT are out!  It is a terrific collection of perspectives on church and disability written and compiled by Engage Disability India .

There are nine units covering Biblical and Faith Perspectives of Disability, Inclusive Church Ministries, Healthcare and Rehabilitation, Personal Development and Family Life as well as Education, Livelihood, Empowerment and an important last unit covering Leisure.  The pages are crowded with stories from people with disabilities and their families and carers. Text boxes and images add clarity and throughout are scripture reminders of why church is meant to be inclusive.  At the end of each chapter is a list of resources and there is a DVD containing a range of learning resources.

A small group of people have already been trained to use the TOOLKIT and they will be training others.  The focus will be on helping church leaders (and then us) to become more  sensitive to disability and then to reveal how  we can be more inclusive.  Let us practice being thoughtful, welcoming and encouraging first and afterwards the tough issues like having to spend money to refurbish a church or meeting place to improve physical access can be addressed.

The TOOLKIT is packed with practical suggestions.

  • Provide opportunities for persons with disabilities and families to share their faith and life experiences in the church.
  • Car pooling might be one way for a person who could not manage public transport to stay at work.
  • Sitting with children without disability so that parents can spend extra time with a child with disabilities might be all that is needed to ensure a child with learning difficulties keeps up with school work.
  • In respect of health care – Churches can create a caring group for carers to provide practical support like transportation to the hospital, waiting with parents during various tests, caring for siblings during hospital appointments.
  • As a neighbour to a family with a child with disabilities you could encourage your own children to go around and play, and share birthday parties and celebrations.
  • Stand in solidarity with a person with disabilities as they claim their rights to benefits, schemes and opportunities. Perhaps a family would like your assistance to fill up forms or applications, or to meet government officers.
  • Check that your current church leisure activities and events are designed to be a pleasure to people with disabilities as well as their carers.

See it is easy!  We have the tools, now let us get going.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Shreya Went to Sunday School

shreya  It was a May evening and I had come with a friend to a pleasant housing colony in South Delhi to meet Shreya and her parents Sujaya and Bobby; and I was excited.

Some months earlier I had written something for a Disability ToolKit to help churches achieve greater disability inclusion and I remembered that earlier Bobby and Sujaya had hinted that their experience in our church with Shreya had been very good so I had asked if we could meet to find out more.

Sujaya and her mother-in-law Eva welcomed us. After a few minutes 18 year old Shreya ambled in wearing a floaty, pink chiffon top, her hair escaping from her plait. She responded warmly in English and Hindi to our greetings and asked her Mum if she should bring water for us, only sitting down after she was sure we were catered for.

Sujaya had already begun to tell us that she attributed Shreya’s social integration to Sunday school. “She was afraid and would cry in a crowd but after going to Sunday school she learned to sit amongst others calmly.”

Although her parents are from Orissa, Shreya was born in Kolkata.  When she was six months old she was detected as having Down’s syndrome; a genetic abnormality where there is an extra copy of chromosome 21.  Such children are late meeting milestones and may have varying degrees of intellectual challenges delaying and limiting their ability to learn.  I wondered how Sujaya felt when she realised her lovely daughter was different “Oh I thought God makes everything beautiful in his own time and so it would be with Shreya” she told me. As we continued to talk I realised that Sujaya’s faith has remained unwavering in that conviction.

A change in Bobby’s work brought them to Delhi. Sujaya says she realised the move was answered prayer as in Delhi there were better opportunities for Shreya.  “Soon after we arrived here the maid took Shreya and her younger brother Shant to play in the park”. Sujaya told us “I think Shreya must have become angry and hit out at another child because from then on everyone called her mental”  “We were so hurt by that” Eva interjected, looking sad at the memory. “She would greet whoever she saw and they would ignore her and keep their distance” Sujaya explained.

A moment later Sujaya’s face brightened as she told us that one day, responding to a ring on the door bell, she found herself face to face with a Telugu woman enquiring if she was the mother of the girl who was a little different. The visitor explained that she was a Christian who lived a couple of blocks away, she had seen Shreya and felt called to visit and pray with the family.  Sujaya was amazed, that a stranger would reach out in Christian love so thoughtfully.  That meeting has turned out to be the central pillar of the way the family prays for Shreya.  “For ten years we have met together every Friday for fasting prayer just for Shreya, praying for the Lord to work in her life.”

“On moving to Delhi, at first we attended a local church but they did not have anything special for children and I could never really join in as Shreya was so fretful.” Sujaya explained.  “Then a friend told us about the vibrant Sunday School at DBF South and we started to go there. I would still sit outside until one day the superintendent suggested that I leave Shreya with the Sunday School teachers and go along to listen to the sermon.  She said the teachers would call me if Shreya was too distressed or things got out of hand. So she started to go to Sunday school. Then one summer, two or three years later, when there were no classes Shreya agreed to come into the main auditorium and since then she has been fully integrated.  The gentle handling of the Sunday School teachers made a huge difference in her life.”

Shreya joined the conversation telling us that she enjoyed going to church. We talked about Disability Sunday when she was given a slot in the Sunday service to read out the 23rd Psalm, which she did with some trepidation but great joy. Then she sang the first verse of her favourite song Aaj ka din for us in her slightly deep, gravelly voice, much to everyone’s delight. Then her brother Shant joined us and cheerfully told us that Shreya loves him and is always on his side in any kind of family discussion.

Bobby laughed as he told us that she loves to pray. “She prays for everyone in the family, all their friends and even the neighbour’s driver. Sometimes she prays for so long we try and stop her by saying “amen” loudly but she will not be deterred.”  We all laughed and then reflected on the fact that here is a young woman who remains like a child because of a genetic disorder but yet she so beautifully reflects Jesus’ teaching that we must all be like little children.

“You know Shreya is improving all the time, she can read from class III books” Sujaya told us.  “Now that she is older we thought we should take her out of her special school and join her in a place for vocational training but our prayers are that she will learn to read and understand the Bible and be a living witness.  When we are praying for that and she continues to learn in school then how can we move her?”

Smiling, Sujaya tells us that Shreya is already influencing people’s lives.  “The Telugu lady has told us that she has experienced so many spiritual blessings since coming in touch with our family which she did because of Shreya”.

The Inspiration and Hope

Heartsandsouls is a blog inspired by Engage Disability India which is a movement to strengthen the Christian response to disability in India.  The name came to me after reading a story about a poor blind man who, after being shoved out of a church, asked “Don’t I also have a soul?”

 I have been hearing about some fine examples of Christian responses to disability in India which I’ll try to share.  Hopefully as time goes on the best examples will be emulated until church in India becomes fully inclusive.